tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post8397509501176455314..comments2023-09-22T03:06:50.198-07:00Comments on Family Geode: FearAimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-79095663902836819042010-10-14T09:57:21.865-07:002010-10-14T09:57:21.865-07:00I wonder if much of the 'fear' is simply b...I wonder if much of the 'fear' is simply based on the life we all grew up in...the life where we were constantly compared to others, given a specific agenda to learn and the expectation that if we didn't do XYZ, that it was BAD and if we did ABC, then it/we were good...and...after all, we all turned out pretty good...so maybe they were 'right'... and so we get freaked out that maybe...the new life/learning philosophy being considered is 'wrong'... fear grows from that!<br /><br />BUT...what if that view is one dimensional...yes, we all turned out pretty good, but is it accurate to say it was the specific path that lead us here...meaning the path of K-12 in school and parented in a way that was mostly authoritarian and directive?? For me, I chose a very different kind of high school experience...an untraditional education that impacted both my joy and what I got out of my high school experience immensely...I followed that up with untraditional undergraduate and graduate programs...I learned a lot...but It was far from a traditional route with traditional expectations... <br />Sometime I think that what I'm currently 'struggling' through has more to do with breaking away from tradition and expected and accepted then it is about truly fearing that my kid will not turn out 'pretty good'...or AWESOME as I know they will... It's about the willingness to fully embrace this evolving life philosophy...and being willing to live with any judgments or disapproval along the way (as well as the kudu’s and approval from others) AND it's also about trusting that if/when my child wants to achieve something that currently they do not have the tools to do, that I can assist them on their journey to do so...<br />I'm glad I can write the words...next step is to 'feel the fear', do it anyway'...and eventually just live life without that fear showing up and getting in the way....<br /><br />S.Y.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com