tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-69661973586768642792024-03-13T04:46:53.073-07:00Family GeodeA thoughtful discussion about parenting, living simply and enjoying all the sparkling crystals that surround us, while always truly understanding the hole in the center.Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.comBlogger239125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-9980928992827343292015-01-20T12:47:00.000-08:002015-01-20T12:47:01.241-08:00How the light gets in...You want to know the kinds of things people say to you after a baby dies? It is ridiculous, really, the way people feel like they have to say <i>something</i>. So they do. They say things like, "She was too beautiful for this Earth," or "Now you'll have an angel in heaven," or "At least you have living children," or (my absolute favorite), "Everything happens for a reason." (I don't know a single babylost mama who doesn't have the urge to yell BITE ME and punch the face of the person saying that last one. We rarely react to it, but the urge is there. In all of us. Really.) People will also repeatedly tell you that time will heal. They told me this after Sophie died, they told me this after Amy died, and I heard it again after my father died. Now it has been 8 years since Sophie died and I'm trying to figure out if it is true. Does time heal?<br />
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What does it mean to heal? Because if I cut myself, my skin opens up and I bleed. I might need stitches or a band aid or something along those lines to close up the skin, but it will close. A scab will form. Eventually (over time), the scab will fall off and new skin will be left. Perhaps there will be a scar, perhaps the scar will be permanent, but there will no longer be a cut. In many cases, there will be no indication that there ever was a cut. And VOILA, time has healed. I don't think that is true of the loss of a loved one, especially the loss of a child. I think time helps you integrate, but it doesn't heal. It can't. I truly believe that there are some wounds that simply will never heal. Ever.<br />
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When you ask the doctor how they are going to save the baby (because since it isn't the 1800's, the assumption is that it <i>will</i> happen, we only need to know <i>how</i>) and the doctor responds with, "I don't think we can," your world cracks. When the inevitable becomes the reality, you find yourself with a completely shattered heart and soul. Shattered into a million pieces that are so scattered into all corners of the universe, they are never coming back together. Never. Inevitably, in the weeks and months that follow, someone (with really good intentions) will tell you it all happened for a reason (resit the urge to punch them). They will tell you that time will heal your broken heart. "Really??" you'll want to say, "Really? Time can't even FIND all the pieces of my shattered world, never mind put them back together!" And yet...yet. Slowly, slowly, ever so slowly, you will find yourself crawling back into the world you left. You will claw your way up out of the hole and sunlight will fall back on your face. You will breathe again. You will smile again. Did time heal? I don't think so. I think that instead, you found the strength to get up <i>with</i> the broken heart. I think you clawed your way out of the hole because it was the only option you had. I think there is still a gaping hole in your heart and in your world. I think, like Leonard Cohen says, that eventually, that's how the light gets in. <br />
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And so here I am. Eight years <i>to the day</i> since the doctor looked at me and said, "I don't think we can." Eight years of finding my way in this world of being a Babylost Mama. Eight years of helping others on their own babylost journeys. And while I miss her more than seems possible, I do know I'm far enough out to say for certain and beyond a shadow of a doubt that the hole she left in my heart, the gaping wound that time will never heal, that, my friends, <i>that</i> is how the light gets in. Every single day.Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-73292346895260607822014-08-25T16:34:00.003-07:002014-08-25T16:34:49.560-07:00Smuttynose 2014Ahhh Smuttynose....<br />
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I so missed my father's presence on the island this year. I missed the way he never jumped in to Haley's Cove, but rather inched in slowly, as if waiting for the tide to submerge him instead of having to take the plunge himself.<br />
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I missed the quiet moments in the harbor, fishing silently together, connected by a mutual love of a moment that needed no words.<br />
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I missed the hike to the cairn and Maren's Rock with him smiling at his grandkids talking a mile a minute about what they might find on the trail.<br />
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I missed coming into the house at noon to find my dad sitting in the corner reading, trying to get out of the often intense sun.<br />
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I missed his amazing zest for life that was so evident off the cliffs of the dyke at sunset as he would fly through the air and land in the sparkling clear, wonderfully cold water with a tremendous splash and a huge gasping smile.<br />
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I missed him planting the hatchet with red paint on the handle into the sign for the Honvent House. Only some will understand that one...but I missed it.<br />
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I missed his kite flying.<br />
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The light of sunset on the windows of Haley just didn't look the same this year.Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-9720163423810983352014-07-11T14:36:00.000-07:002014-07-11T14:36:21.464-07:00I am from...At a writing camp this week, Megan was asked to write a poem about where she is from. Here is what she wrote:<br />
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I am from waves crashing on the shore.<br />
I am from sap, oozing out of the tree onto my hands.<br />
From warmth and my mothers arms.<br />
From snuggling down under the covers on a cold night.<br />
I am from the moon and the sun.<br />
From butterflies and flowers.<br />
I am from sparks flying from the camp fire.<br />
I am from sledding and the sparkle of the snow.<br />
From family and friends.<br />
From the smell of pine trees.<br />
From the croaking of frogs.<br />
I am from the fun and disappointments. <br />
From happy and sad.<br />
I am from peace and fright.<br />
I am from the fresh smell of books.<br />
From the sounds of birds and sitting in the garden.<br />
From rocks, sea glass, and shells.<br />
I am from laughter and tears.<br />
From writing and reading.<br />
I am from my dreams.<br />
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<br />Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-82676599145933496612014-06-16T13:29:00.000-07:002014-06-16T13:29:36.474-07:00Father's DayMy Dad's birthday was a few weeks ago...and yesterday was Father's Day. He hadn't wanted to celebrate either of those things lately, but maybe this year would have been different. Maybe we would have done something together, the way we used to--perhaps a sushi lunch in Portland, or a trip out to Smutty for some kite flying. Maybe we would have gone out for ice cream and, faced with 50 exotic flavors to choose from, he would have picked French Vanilla. Maybe he would have come to my house and let the kids make him a cake, even though he didn't like cake and would have preferred lemon meringue pie. Maybe.<br />
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Right now, as we head into a beautiful summer, I'm reminded to focus on the amazing way he lived his life, and not the sad loss that was his reality at the end. I'm grateful that, at his Celebration of Life, who he was became so apparent and the incredible depth of his talents and personality came shining through. My dad touched so many people's lives, and it was really nice to be surrounded by people who remember him the way he was before depression took him away. <br />
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I've spent the past few weeks thinking about this juxtaposition, this seeming incongruity between who he truly was and who he became. I've been wondering what would have happened in my own life if I had zigged instead of zagged at
different points. And what it comes down to is that any different turn would have put me
somewhere else and I'm so, so, so very happy with my life right now. As an example, I
think all the time about where we would be if Sophie had lived. To have her live, however, means recognizing that I probably wouldn't have Evan and I
almost definitely wouldn't have Jordan. And my life would be SO horribly
incomplete without them that in a strange, sounds horrible kind of way,
I'm okay with her death. My father is gone--and as horrible as it is, the possible inheritance (assuming the house sells!) will
open up a HUGE world of travel that has been knocking on our door
for AGES. Megan has wanted to go to Scotland since she first learned
about castles. Erin wants to see Mt. Everest. Even...well, Evan just
wants to travel the country and see all the baseball parks--but that is
still something! So I know <i>know</i> <b><i>know</i></b> that I'll look back at this twist and be thankful. I know Dad is much better off now than he
has been the past few years. He had SO MUCH holding him back. So much
that he wouldn't or couldn't change, and that is all gone now. <br />
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And while I'm still sitting in a place of pain because of everything that could have, should have, would have, I also know it will get more integrated with time. I know this. I've walked this
road before and I am intimately familiar with grief's path. My biggest
hope is this--that in time, when I look back, my dad's death won't be a
simple zig or zag...that it will be a significant life-changing turn for
the better that I can look back on with the same <i>yes my heart is broken AND it is FILLED TO THE BRIM with gratitude</i>-type thoughts that I have about Sophie. My dad
gave me so much in life and I want to make sure I come out of this fog
of death a better person, as a final gift from my dad. <br />
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All that AND, I wish I could stop crying because he is gone.<br />
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<br />Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-47314092857471563152014-06-13T19:23:00.001-07:002014-06-22T16:51:31.998-07:00PenniesNow comes the hard part. The part I have been dreading. I have to
continue to live the rest of my life without my father by my side. How
does that work, exactly? Over the past few months, I've been thrown so
many life lines--some I know are firmly attached at the other end,
having been thrown by family and friends who have always been there for
me. Other life lines feel loose, like there is a risk of losing them
again, as if they aren't as firmly attached at the other end. The past
few weeks, I have felt myself clinging to some of these and grieving
again as they slowly drift out into the sea of life. Each one that
drifts now feels unrecoverable. Maybe because it was attached to
someone who knew me through my father but doesn't necessarily know me
now. Or maybe because it was attached to someone who lives far away and
simply needed to head back to their life. Whatever the reason, as they
drift, I panic. If they all drift away, how do I continue to feel my
father's love and connection to my life?<br />
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Long story--so
stop reading if you don't have the time, it is going to take a while to
explain all this, as it goes back to Amy's life and death. Way back in 2010, after Amy stopped chemo but before
she was too sick to live, she and I were hanging out in her apartment
having just had lunch out. We were watching stupid daytime tv, some
show about the paranormal and ghosts and stuff. In this episode, a
woman was being kept up at night because her feet were feeling
"wrong"--like they were under pressure or something like that. It
turned out (if you believe this stuff), that her deceased husband was
coming back each night and rubbing her feet. Apparently it was his way
of telling her that he was okay and that he missed her. Whatever--it
was creepy. Amy and I laughed and I made her swear that she wouldn't
come back and haunt me like that. This started an interesting
conversation in which her final question was, "Well? How am I supposed
to make sure you know I'm okay?" I thought a minute and then remembered
something I had read in a Dear Abby column called Pennies From Heaven.
This is a collection of stories from readers who have found pennies
with a year significant to them and/or their loved one in completely
random places--places where they would later swear there was not a penny
earlier. Anyway, I told Amy to leave me pennies. We sat down together
and made a list of years that were important to the two of us; 1992,
1996, 1998, 2003.... We had about 6 or 8 years that were the most
significant in our nearly 20 years of friendship. Fast forward to two
days after Amy died. I was at a store buying something for her service
and the woman in front of me was clearly in a hurry-the store clerk gave
her some change and she moved too quickly and dropped it. Although she
glanced at it, she was already on her way out of the store. I bent down to pick
it up and hand it to her, but she was gone before I stood up. When I
looked down there were three pennies. <i>All three</i> were on our list of significant years. Really. I did what any normal person would do--I brushed it off. Coincidence, obviously, and way too soon for Amy to be sending me "our signal." Three days later, I was out running, doing an out and back route on a low traffic, dirt road where running in the middle of the road is truly the safest option. On the way back, there, in the middle of the road was the shiniest penny you have ever seen. I'm quite sure I would have noticed it if it had been there on my way out. I picked it up--1992, the year we met. I stopped to catch my breath, but still thought it was simply a strange coincidence. <br />
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There were probably three more incidences like this one--pennies popping up at unexpected times. Finally, about 2 or 3 weeks after her death, our whole family went skiing because we simply needed to spend some time together after the significant toll Amy's final weeks had taken on us. This trip was made possible, in part, by some money Amy had left us. On the final ride up the chair lift, I was sitting with Megan, who would have been nearly 6 at the time. She was waving her mitten slowly back and forth, so I asked her what she was doing. "Oh, " she said, "I found a penny down by the lodge and I put it in my mitten." I looked at it. You guessed it, it was on the list.<br />
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I finally told one of our mutual college friends about all this and she laughed, clearly having believed in the pennies much earlier than me. She said, "If you don't start to open your mind to the message she is sending, she is going to resort to simply pelting you with pennies as you walk down the street!!" I gave in. I started believing, no, <i>knowing</i> that Amy is okay. I know this because when I was pregnant with Jordan, I had 4 ultrasounds and not once did I fail to find a penny either going in or coming out of the office. Not a single time. <br />
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Now back to the reason I'm telling you all this--my need to continue to feel my father's love around me. A few weekends ago, we were at a good friend's wedding. It was such a beautiful weekend that actually started off as a parent's nightmare. It was incredibly challenging to get there (the kids were
tired of the car, Chris and I were tired of packing up and heading out,
the driving is getting annoying, the kids fought and we yelled...)..But, we had promised the young, excited
bride and her family we would be there, so we went, bad moods and all. We got there
and it was at a beautiful YMCA camp that was deserted except for the
wedding weekend people--there was a waterfront, tennis courts, a
baseball field...basically my kids' version of heaven. We all began to relax a little. Of course we were late, so the girls and I quickly changed and went
to the ceremony, while Chris played with and changed clothes on the little ones. We all went to the reception which started off what would become, simply, a really fun
family weekend. Because the camp was empty, the kids were free to be kids, going back and forth between our cabin and the hall, or heading down to the waterfront to skip stones. I was having fun reconnecting with people I hadn't seen in years, and began to feel the stress of the very difficult past few weeks start to peel away. Then, while not paying attention at the reception, I found myself looking up to see the father/bride dance being announced. As I watched them take the floor arm in arm, I suddenly became overwhelmed, panicked, weepy. The weight of my father's death fell on me and I knew I couldn't stay in the hall. I stood up and calmly and (hopefully) casually,
walked outside, heading to our cabin. I felt as if I was suffocating, but I knew the feeling would pass if I could just get to my family. I walked over to our cabin where
the kids were playing and in various states of bathing suits, pjs, and
baseball gear. Megan, who was wondering around the cabin, suddenly bends down and stands up again, "Hey
mom! Look what I found!" She hands me a penny...1974 (the year I was
born). And while I never sat down with my dad and made a list of years, I'm pretty sure that was an important one for the two of us.<br />
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<br />Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-74743553767539300012014-05-13T13:24:00.000-07:002014-05-13T13:24:20.346-07:00Dear Dad,Dear Dad,<br />
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Oh you left a mess. You knew that, didn't you...that it was a mess. And yet, in the mess I'm finding myself so many memories! I'm scanning pictures of our life together and there are so many questions I want to ask you. Who is that woman we are with? Where are we flying those kites? Buck naked, Dad? Really? Did we need a picture of that? Oh, and what is with the fish and the chainsaw? No, seriously Dad...what is with the fish and the chainsaw?<br />
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I had to move your memorial service--Moritomo simply couldn't hold all the people coming. You touched so many lives. Mark is coming from California. Heather and her mom are coming, but you know they would never miss this. You were so important to them. I asked for 30 seconds of audio for your slide show and, true to form, Heather sent 30 seconds and Mark sent 7 minutes. So many people, Dad, so many people.<br />
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I'm feeling a lot of pressure to Get This Right. I have once chance, Dad, one chance to say goodbye to you. One chance to help all these people say goodbye. One chance to share everything you were with the world. I'm not sure I'm doing a good enough job. I'm working hard on this video, but as I add audio, the slideshow part gets altered and then I add a picture and then the whole thing is off. Technical problems, really, but I just want it to be right. So I keep working. And the food...what do you want me to order for food? I'll definitely get sushi, but what else? And how much will we need? I guess I just have to do the best I can.<br />
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These are the things I lie awake thinking about at night. And know what else I'm thinking about? How scared I am for all of this to be over. For the past 6 weeks, your life and death has been my whole world. This week is going to be awesome--to reconnect with Mark and Mark, to hear all the stories (many I've heard before!), to sit at your house and cry with Heather. It is going to be amazing. And then? And then it will be over. I'll come back here with my family, Chris will finish the business of your estate, we'll sell your beloved house...but there will be no more. Then what? Do you really expect me to live the rest of my life without you? This is the part that scares me. What do I do next week? And the week after? All the work I have done on the slide show has put me right back into the past--you are so alive and so present in all those pictures. When the last slide goes up at your service, when the last note rings out, when the last person wipes their eyes and heads for the door...does that mean you are really gone? I'm so afraid of what I'll feel after that and I'm terrified of the expectations next week.<br />
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But that is all part of your lesson, isn't it? Like Heather said so amazingly for the slide show. Life, in all its precarious little twits and turns, is meant to be lived forward. So forward we will go--savoring every bit of this week. <br />
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And I'll try to find out what the deal was with the fish and the chainsaw. Because I really want to know.<br />
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Love,<br />
Your DaughterAimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-30133037260915659002014-04-20T06:08:00.001-07:002014-04-20T06:28:17.651-07:00Sigh...Grief is so different in this fast-paced world of Facebook and high-speed connections to everything and everyone all the time. I'm looking at some of my FB posts in the past two weeks and I just have to laugh. If you only know me from FB, you would think, "Oh...her dad died.....but oh look, she's taking her kid to baseball practice--she must be over it!" If you only know me from the parenting group I help lead, you think, "Oh, her dad died...but look! She's totally able to help me breastfeed and listen to all my problems, so she must be over it!" If you only know me from the dozens of activities I bring my kids to each week, you would think, "Oh, there she is...wait, didn't her dad just die? Well she is here, so she must be over it!" Obviously none of these are right. I'm not "over it" by any stretch, but life with kids hasn't stopped! It isn't fair to make them stop and it seems so awful to me to keep going. The world SHOULD have stopped spinning because such an important part of my life is gone, but it hasn't, so I have no choice but to keep going. <br />
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My dad passed away three weeks ago, today. Three weeks ago. I look at things I agreed to a month, two months, six months ago, and I realize I was a completely different person then. I feel like a whole lifetime has passed in the last three weeks. Three weeks is nothing--but here we are more than halfway through April, heading to May, and I'm not sure where that time has gone. Do you have it? Can you bring it back?<br />
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I feel like I'm riding a bicycle on a trail and I just hit a rock. I haven't fallen off, yet, but I'm in that brief moment where you are madly adjusting the handle bars, trying to balance and still maintain forward momentum. I can't look ahead on the trail so I just have to hope another rock isn't in front of me. All I can do is cling desperately to belief that my center of gravity is okay--that I'm not going to fall off--not this time. With a few more adjustments, I'll be riding on down the trail. But right now, in the moment of swinging handle bars and held breath, right now, I'm struggling. FB doesn't show it, can't possibly show it, because one lives life in two sentence bursts. Yesterday I bought a kayak so our summer adventures could fit our expanding family. On FB, this seems so nice and normal. It seems uncomplicated, like a fun thing to do with my gang on a random Friday morning. But do you know where my love of sea kayaking and everything ocean came from? Dad. Do you know where Erin is excited to use the boat? Smutty. So that little adventure to go buy a boat, that simple, uncomplicated action that we did with no tears or regrets and I then summed up in 2 sentences on my FB status...well, it turns out it isn't as simple as it seems.<br />
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I know three weeks is a short amount of time to regain your balance after hitting this kind of rock. I know I have to be gentle with myself. I also know that it is painful to have the world continue to spin the way it is. I WANTED to go to Fenway with Evan last week, I WANT Erin to do her fencing tournament this weekend, I WANT Megan to perform in the state meet. I want all this stuff...AND, I want to crawl under a rock. I'm pretty sure I can't have it both ways.Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-54059473498861331912014-04-14T13:37:00.001-07:002014-04-14T17:31:42.735-07:00My DadI've been here before--these early days of grief. I've walked in this foggy state of being completely lost and confused. I've dealt with the feelings of anger that result whenever I see people (who don't know me or my father) callously going about their lives as if nothing has happened, as if the Earth hasn't completely stopped spinning. I've been through this feeling of being exhausted without having done anything of substance all day (grief is tiring). I've been this sad before. And yet this time, it is so, so, so very different. Losing Sophie was so medically complicated, that it was days after her death that I even knew what was happening and it was months before I was physically able to grieve. Losing Amy was horribly unfair and sad, but we knew it was coming. We had a year to prepare. Losing my Dad is different--not easier, not worse--just different.<br />
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For those of you who don't know, my father suffered from bipolar disorder. What this meant when I was younger was nothing significant. He had ups and downs, but he was usually full of energy, forever doing something fun, and always involved in my life. He was perpetually late--I can't think of a single time he was supposed to pick me up from something that I wasn't the last one of my friends to be picked up. (My freshman year of high school, I had a very small, tiny, itty-bitty role in the drama club's production--I can't even remember the play--but my part was within the first 5 or 10 minutes of the show. While it didn't take much begging to convince my dad to come, after the show, Dad was mad at me that I had "dragged him" to this show and I wasn't even in it! Of course, it turns out that he gotten there late and missed my part.) He LOVED live music. He never missed one of my concerts--late to them often, but never missed one. He couldn't get enough of the ocean. People wonder where I got my love of all things ocean and boating and kayaking...it was him. While my earliest memories of the Isles of Shoals are on my grandfather's boat, I spent more time out there with my Dad than with anyone else and probably more than anyone else did with him (with the exception of Janice, his partner of nearly 20 years). It is something that connected us more than anything else. Watching my kids play out there is amazing to me because it is all his doing.<br />
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This all changed about 3 or 4 years ago--his love of life, his joy, his interest in what was going on in the world--it all slowly disappeared as he sunk into a depression. It started in 2003, with the passing of Janice, his amazing partner of nearly 20 years. A piece of him died with her. His spark came back a bit as his collection of grandchildren grew, but he was never fully recovered. When he bought a new boat in 2006, I thought he was finally going to come back to life. I suggested the name: Snap Out Of It. Years later, after a series of poor financial decisions, he was forced to sell the boat and that was another gigantic blow to everything that was my father. Since then, he has gone farther and farther into a depression. While I'm not writing this to air all the dirty laundry my father carted around (we all have that, don't we?), I want people to know the truth--that these last few years my father has not been my Dad. He's been a person I've checked up on, invited to family events (he usually didn't come), and called to make sure he was okay. He has been a shell of his former self.<br />
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This is the part that makes his death so very, very different from the others I've dealt with. The fact is that he died years ago. In the past few years, he hasn't wanted to be involved in our lives and (if I have to be brutally honest), I haven't truly wanted him in ours. I felt a very strong need to protect my kids from his depression and the resulting lifestyle choices. So in addition to the suddenness of the actual death and the sadness and shock that brings, there is the struggle with the guilt and anger I feel at myself for letting our relationship get to the point it did. There is the anger I feel towards him due to the fact that I begged and begged him to sell a house that was too big and move into something smaller and closer to us--but he refused, never wanting to be a part of our lives or community. How am I supposed to come to terms with this? How can I reconcile the man he was with the man he became? I know the answer to all of this, of course, is time. As different as this death is, I know next week, next month, next year will be different. I know I'll start remembering my REAL Dad, and not be trapped in the guilt and anger. I'll remember the time we flipped over on the ATV, and the time and
energy he spent making sure my brother and I had the absolute BEST tree
houses on the street. I'll remember all our trips to NYC and the time spent there with some of the best friends a family could have. I'll remember the time he set me adrift on a row boat with only one oar. I'll remember the time he was in tears over the beauty of the best performance of my high school career. I'll remember the pride in his eyes when I graduated from college, and the way he held my arm as he walked me down the aisle on my wedding day. Time....<br />
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Dad, I can't take back the past few months and years, and for that I am sorry. I hope you know that as much as it frustrated me, I never gave up on you. I never gave up hope that someday you would join our family, and my kids could see the man I remember and the man I will always love. I wish it hadn't ended like this. More than anything, I wish it hadn't ended like this. I love you more than words can say and I'm going to miss your presence in our life. You asked me once, when I was in high school or college, to come to your bipolar support group and talk about what it was like to grow up with a bipolar parent. I didn't want to go. I felt like I wouldn't be able to answer the question because I had never known any differently. How could I explain what life was like WITH a bipolar parent when I had never had life WITHOUT a bipolar parent. And know what? I can't imagine any other Dad, bipolar or not. I can't imagine my life without the memories of the boat and the island. I can't imagine kids who never got to sled down the driveway on their dad's back. I can't imagine life without kites, snowshoes, cameras, Broadway shows, camping trips, and fishing from a canoe. I can't imagine growing up without ever having to pull over to the side of the road because the light was "just right" and would never be that way, in that moment, on that day ever again. There is so much more--so, so, so much more to say to you. I hope you are finally at peace and that you can see what is truly in my heart. I love you, Dad, and I cannot express how much I'm going to miss you.<br />
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When I was younger, I was a babysitter. And not just any babysitter, I was a fantastic, highly sought after babysitter--one of the most popular in my (very) small town. Middle school, high school, and even much of college was financed in this manner. But do you want to know a secret? I never really liked taking care of the older kids (there are a handful of exceptions to this, and they know who they are!). I loved, loved, loved the babies, toddlers, and even preschoolers. I loved reading to them, cuddling with them, rocking them, doing arts and crafts...all of it. I just loved the little ones! When I was pregnant for the first time, I knew beyond a shadow of a doubt that I would love that baby. I knew I would know how to care for that baby, and I knew that the first few years with that baby would be the best years of my life. However, I always secretly worried that when that baby got older, my love would fade, my interest would wane, and I would have to fake enthusiasm for whatever they were doing. Of course, like so many of my preconceived notions about parenting, I really never had to worry about this! (Love fade??? What?? The things you learn...)<br />
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My first baby, the one that made me a mother, the one that changed our lives in so many awesome ways, is now 11 years old. She has entered the years that I never thought I would enjoy and here I am, soaking up every minute of it. Today, we were riding back from one of her fencing lessons and we were talking about her first big tournament that is coming up. She is excited and nervous and scared and eager...everything you would expect of someone about to really stretch their wings for the first time. It was at that moment that it really dawned on me how very much I LOVE LOVE LOVE having an older kid! She and I are going to head out next weekend, <i>on our own!</i> We are going to get a hotel room and hang out. We are going to a fencing tournament where I will support this amazing kid as she does something SHE loves, and I will love every second of it! We will share meals and treats and a long car ride. We will talk about everything and nothing. We will laugh and joke and connect in ways that we simply can't when surrounded by younger siblings. I'm so lucky to have a kid on the cusp of the rest of her life and I can't put into words how much I'm enjoying being with her. A friend of mine with older kids (in their 20s) told me that having grown kids is so much fun--I was hesitant to believe her, but now I'm sure she is right. If my 11yo is so awesome and just gets more and more awesome with each passing day and year, I can only imagine what having a 20yo will be like! (But not too soon, Erin, let's enjoy being 11 first, okay??)<br />
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Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-14519298822760854932014-02-13T11:28:00.000-08:002014-02-13T11:48:17.789-08:00Five already!There is something to be said for being 5. Five is just about the coolest age (you know, like all the others that I love!). Five is independent, but not quite (how does making a pb and j take 37 dishes and 17 knives? Just ask a 5yo to do it!). Five is rambunctious days and still loving the cuddly stories at night. Five is running down the street to a friend's house ALL BY MYSELF! Five is passionate about life and discovery. Five is insightful questions followed immediately by ridiculous knock-knock jokes over and over and over. Five is just awesome!<br />
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Here is Evan with Brian Butterfield, the Red Sox Third Base Coach. He came to Orono with the trophy, so of course Evan was there!
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Here he is with his "general manager" fancy clothes on (usually when a uniform is in the wash), helping Daddy trim a tree.<br />
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And here he is in his first mountain bike race--a rare moment without Red Sox gear on!!<br />
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Happy Birthday to my incredible, baseball-obsessed, loving, lively,
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to 6 in one piece! Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-54554870381093136852014-02-09T09:44:00.002-08:002014-02-09T09:44:36.495-08:00Hello Completely Ignored Blog!Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-33389434781882149882014-02-09T09:43:00.000-08:002014-02-13T11:28:48.289-08:00Terrific Two!I hate the Terrible Twos. No, that's not right. I hate that people think there is even such thing as the Terrible Twos. Two-year-olds happen to be among the most incredible, funny, enjoyable, wonderful, emotional, happy, loving creatures on Earth. I can't imagine ever NOT loving every minute of this time! Yes, I even love those tantrums--oh those tantrums! I feel so sad for my little kiddo who has come across some limit in life that cannot be explained well enough to soothe and is felt so deeply and harshly. The tantrums remind me how much my little one is growing and learning and how I just need to guide, hold, cuddle, and love to the ends of the world.<br />
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I didn't get to enjoy Erin being two. When she was two, we had this new little bundle of colic enter our life, we had just moved, and life was completely overwhelming me. (Looking back, it seems funny to be overwhelmed by two kids, but at the time, I was just getting through the days.) I have some cute video of Erin being two, but I don't remember it as well as I would like to and I know I didn't fully enjoy it as much as I could have. Screaming newborns will do that to you.<br />
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I have very little memory of Megan being two. When she was two, we had just lost Sophie. I spent a lot of her second year fighting for my physical health and then fighting depression, struggling under the weight of grief so deep few people ventured in to help us. Megan got a whole year at home with just me (Erin was at a Montessori school at the time), and I was not the mother I should have been for that little girl. So while I regret the lack of memories of Erin being two, I still feel so so so so so much guilt for the lost time with Megan. It is hard for me to talk about this lost year--for so many reasons.<br />
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Evan being two was amazing. Chris and I marveled time and time again how much we loved having a two-year-old. We lived and breathed the whole thing, noting over and over how it took us 4 kids to get a 2yo! He language skills, his independence, his absolute love for anything his sisters did. Amazing. A 2yo's antics never stop and are filled with so much love and good will. Truly incredible!!<br />
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And so here we are--on the eve of our final 2nd birthday. As Jordan embarks on the journey from 2 to 3, we know she will bring as much love and joy to our family as each of her siblings has. And me? I'm ready for the ride. I will do whatever I can to savor each moment, video/photograph what I can, snuggle up close whenever the moment presents itself, and just love the heck out of this little girl. I can't wait!
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Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-76295776094146644062013-11-12T18:36:00.000-08:002013-11-12T18:36:48.684-08:00The Whole StoryIt is very difficult to to describe something that is indescribable! This post is my attempt to do just that. To start from the beginning, Evan likes baseball. Scratch that--Evan LOVES baseball. Scratch that--Evan is COMPLETELY, TOTALLY and OVER-THE-TOP OBSESSED with baseball. Wow...even that doesn't seem strong enough. Evan lives and breathes baseball. He has read every book our library has (fiction, non-fiction, biography, autobiography, you name it!). He has read every book our town librarians are able to get their hands on from other libraries. He has seen videos on the life and times of his favorite players and he has seen both videos made after the Red Sox (obviously his favorite team) won the World Series in 2004 and 2007. (He is anxiously awaiting the no-doubt coming video on this year's win.) All season, he would fall asleep listening to the Rex Sox games on the radio and wake in the morning to run to the computer and watch highlights streamed on-line. He spends TONS of time every day throwing, sliding, hitting, begging someone to pitch to him (just one more time!), and practicing his base running and stealing. He knows more about the sport and the players than any 4yo should know...but that is his love, his passion and it brings him so, so, so, so much joy.<br />
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Last week, his Grammy emailed us with a possible chance to take part in a batting practice session at Fenway Park. He could have one go-round...10 balls to swing at. I asked Evan if he wanted to do it. I had to explain that it would be off a pitching machine (which he has never faced before) and that they may not be able to set it down low enough for his small strike zone. I wanted to make sure he understood, before we got there, that it was entirely possible he would swing 10 times and miss 10 times. This wasn't like playing with Grampy or Daddy (who would never end on a miss!) and that he would get 10 swings and then it would be the next batter's turn. He didn't hesitate. "But Mom," he said, "I could swing and miss 10 times AT FENWAY PARK! I would be standing at HOME PLATE, AT FENWAY PARK! Of COURSE I want to do it!!" Thus, I began working out the arrangements.<br />
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Meanwhile, in an attempt to get him at least SOME time in front of a pitching machine before the big day, I called a few places that have batting cages in our area. They are all closed for the season<span class="userContent" data-ft="{"tn":"K"}">. Just on the off-chance something cool would happen, I called the head baseball coach at
UMaine. I fully expected his Administrative Assistant to calmly take a message and never get a response. Amazingly, not only did the Head Coach answer the phone, he invited us over to use
their $40,000 pitching simulator! They set it as slow as they could and
as low as they could and Evan loved every minute of trying to hit 40mph
"fast" balls that went over his head a bit. By the end of the morning, he was hitting a few of them. He was feeling ready for today. </span><br />
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<span class="userContent" data-ft="{"tn":"K"}">This is where it simply becomes impossible for me to describe the joy he was feeling as he stepped onto the field. The man doing the announcing asked him what number and position he wanted announced. Evan thought for a minute, "Number 29, Left Field" (Daniel Nava). He carefully tried on batting helmets and weighed different bats, choosing the one he thought was the lightest and, he said, had the best grip.</span><br />
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<span class="userContent" data-ft="{"tn":"K"}">"Now batting, number 29, left field, EVAN GERBI!"</span><br />
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<span class="userContent" data-ft="{"tn":"K"}">I won't give you the play-by-play. Suffice to say, on the 5th pitch, we all heard the crack of the bat and watched as the ball soared out of the batting cage and right down the middle of the field. Did it hit the Green Monster? No. Did it go past the infield? No. Did it go that far at all? Not really. We are talking about a 35-pound 4yo swinging a too-heavy bat against a 45mph hard ball. The physics of the situation are pretty obvious! Did it wow the crowd and move his mother (and Grandmother, I must say!) to tears? YES! Will it be remembered for a long, long time? The answer to that is clear. </span><br />
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You have to be a Fenway Fan to understand this photo, but that is my little guy up on the big screen! The one under the John Hancock sign! Look! He's famous!<br />
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Car ride on the way home...he may be a big time hitter, but he's still just 4! It was a lot of excitement for one day! </div>
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Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-79463909078273707632013-06-24T13:14:00.006-07:002013-06-24T13:14:59.391-07:00Update!I really have been neglecting this blog lately! We have been doing so much and I'm just trying to keep up with life these days. I have a photo book I have to finish for our portfolio review in a few weeks, the kids are doing a ton of activities, and with summer happening, things are just very busy and fun! Here are a few photos of our latest adventure in Seattle:
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Cousins at a waterfall in the Cascades</div>
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Touching the Pacific Ocean for the first time!</div>
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Tide Pooling in the Pacific--HUGE sea stars!</div>
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Hiking in the Rainforest</div>
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Whale Watching around the San Juan Islands--AMAZING!</div>
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<br />Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-59739853614438662342013-06-02T11:09:00.003-07:002013-06-02T11:09:57.069-07:00Megan Turned 8...last month.I am the worst Mommy in the whole world...here it is June 3rd already and I never posted a birthday post for Megan. Oh! my little Goose is growing up too fast! Megan's past year has been completely defined by gymnastics. While it took us some time to appreciate that her requests for lessons were born from true desire (as opposed to just wanting to be with her friend), we finally got her signed up. She started at Level 1...she was in that for about 20 minutes. She was moved to Level 2 almost immediately and was in that class for about a week while they waited for an opening in the Level 3 class. When she switched from one gym to another, she found her groove. Level 3 lasted a few months until she (and her best friend) were asked to join PreTeam. That is where she is now, anxiously finishing up the last few practices of this session to see who makes it to Team. She is very, very close and working hard. We'll see what happens!<br />
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Obviously it doesn't matter what happens in the world of gymnastics--she will always be my Goose. Happy (very belated) Birthday to the newly crowned 8-year-old who brings so much joy to our family and to everyone she meets. We love you, Megan!<br />
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Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-62547163329202961352013-05-23T19:36:00.002-07:002013-05-23T19:36:48.667-07:00ConnectionA teenager from the town next to ours disappeared last week. This week they found her body, and a young man who lives in my town has been charged with her murder. Near as anyone here can figure out, she was seeing this guy or they were FB friends or something like that. It seems he may have been a predator, but details are sketchy and I prefer not to jump to any conclusions before this man has had his day in court. But I digress. What is my real reason for writing something now? Connection.<br />
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Yesterday, our local newspaper printed an <a href="http://bangordailynews.com/2013/05/21/news/bangor/nichole-cables-family-remembers-coco-warns-of-dangers-of-social-media/?ref=relatedBox">article</a> to remember the victim. There were several things in it that struck me. First, clearly this young woman was considered a "typical" teen. She loved school because she could hang out with her friends and she was, apparently, constantly connected to her cell phone so she could be talking and texting with her friends at all times. The article even mentioned how she had a hard time this past summer on a two week wilderness trip with her family because of the lack of cell phone connection and her inability to text. There was nothing, NOTHING in this article that our modern society would deem inappropriate for a kid her age. And that, my friends, THAT <b><i>is</i></b> the problem. As a society, we have become so disconnected from our children that the only things they have left to connect with are their peers. We consider this normal behavior, but in many other societies, <i>it is not</i>! Kids don't naturally connect to peers, they naturally connect to parents and caregivers. How have we pushed our children so far away from us that we think it is normal for a kid to not enjoy two weeks with their family <i>because they didn't have a cell phone connection</i>? Think about this--instead of telling her parents or other trusted member of her community or family that she was FB friends with this new, older guy, she was telling her friends. Instead of someone with more experience telling her to be careful and that maybe this wasn't a good idea, she had kids her own age telling her, "Oh, cool! He's cute!" Believe me, I'm NOT blaming the victim for being naive (perhaps she wasn't) and I'm not blaming her parents for being absent (perhaps they weren't). Again, details are sketchy and I'm not jumping to conclusions. What I am doing, however, is blaming SOCIETY for not recognizing what we are doing to children! <br />
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As a whole, we have a very sick society--and yes, these murders and acts of violence (marathon bombs, school shootings) are relatively rare. Really, they are. HOWEVER, while the acts of violence are rare, children with anxiety disorders, OCD, ADD, ADHD, obesity, diabetes...these things are not rare. We are a very sick society and the younger generation is getting sicker. Much of these problems can be directly linked to how we treat our kids and the way we force disconnection on them <i>because society says we have to</i>. (Ask yourself, honestly, why do your kids go to school? Is it because you truly think it is what is best for them?) We need to understand that this isn't about tough love or forcing kids to obey and all will be well. This is about completely changing how we treat the youngest and most vulnerable section of our society. We MUST begin to connect with these kids. Get them out of school if that isn't good for them. Find them alternatives to school and day care and, instead, let them play outside and learn and follow their passions. We need to let them be who they are with an adult beside them to support, nurture and fuel their desires (as opposed to an adult telling them what to do every day). It is about letting kids play in multi-age situations and learn from all kinds of people; older kids, younger kids, adults, etc. It is about telling a child that they are worthwhile, no matter what they are feeling in a given moment. Until we change the way we approach children in our society, we can continue to expect them to grow up disconnected and confused. We can expect them to make mistakes from which there is little ability to recover. We can expect mental illness, obesity, and depression. We can expect rare acts of violence to become more common and for us, as a society, to simply shake our heads and wonder what went wrong. I'm telling you here what is wrong. We are lacking a connection and we think it is <i>normal</i>. We think it is the way it is <i>supposed</i> to be! It isn't. There is another way. [Getting off soapbox now....]Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-41468456299708473332013-05-03T19:13:00.001-07:002013-05-03T19:13:23.365-07:00The curriculum questionLast week, I went to a housewarming party and got to hang out with a bunch of our neighbors as we welcomed a new neighbor to the area. One of our neighbors, who lives across the street from us, is a wonderfully kind gentleman who has been very supportive of Erin's Death Star Bottle Drive, loves watching my kids play outside, and is often invited to partake in our crazy science experiments that usually involve blowing stuff up. Last night, as we were talking, he asked me what curriculum I used with the kids and wondered how I managed to adjust it to meet the needs of all the different ages I'm trying to teach at home. It is one of those questions that I have come to both dread and thoroughly enjoy. It becomes a dread question when I know the person I'm talking to comes at the idea of homeschooling from a very old-school perspective. They want to hear how my school-at-home is going, what subjects we cover, what prepared, boxed curriculum I use, and how do I test my children's mastery of each subject. These conversations can be challenging, to say the least. However, if the person I'm talking to is clearly open to the idea of unschooling, we might get into a fantastic conversation about how kids learn and the value of play and connection. But, of course, when someone just asks a question like that, I'm not sure how to answer. So, last night, I took a deep breath and explained to him that I really didn't use a curriculum and that I adjusted the subject matter to whichever kid had an interest in that subject. His response? <i>I'm just wondering what you use because your kids are so utterly amazing and bubbly and wonderful! Whatever you are doing, you should do more of it!</i> (Phew! Off the hook!)<br />
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Here's the truth. Kids learn about life by living life. They learn about loving by being loved. They learn about respect by being respected. Nothing in the whole world is so utterly simple and so incredibly challenging as trusting a child to do what they need to do. This trust is the root of everything we do with our kids. I wish I could say I'm perfect at it--that I have let go of all desire to control my kids and that we meet each other's needs as a family in harmony everyday...but I would be lying. The truth is that we are a large family and we fight, we get sick, we get tired, we get on each other's nerves. I find, however, that because we base everything we do on this deep rooted trust in our children, we are pretty quick to find forgiveness, patience, love, laughter, play, pretend, joy, adventure, games...you know, the good stuff. Chris and I are letting go a little more each day, digging a little deeper into the partnership paradigm with our children. Yes, we were both raised differently and yes, we turned out pretty well (if I do say so myself!), but there is something to be said for Gandhi's challenge to be the change you wish to see in the world. If I want a world of freedom and joy, I must provide that for my children. Along the way they will learn their multiplication tables (if they want to) and they will learn the difference between your and you're (because they WILL want to learn that!). How do I know this? I trust them. The challenge for us is to be the change we wish to see in our children. We are still working on that.Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-18094255429022343942013-04-13T18:45:00.002-07:002013-04-13T18:45:43.427-07:00Life Rocks!I recently returned from a trip to NH to attend the Life Rocks Radical Unschooling conference. It was an amazing experience! Being around like-minded people for a week to share stories of this life we are building was incredible. It was so refreshing to breathe in the love, passion, and excitement that everyone there shared for living a peaceful, joyful life with their kids. We are home now, eager to step even deeper into this world of partnership parenting. <br />
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Meeting up with like-minded moms every morning at 8am! The discussions we had over food freedom, media freedom, and living peacefully with our children were truly awesome. I can't wait to attend this group again next year!<br />
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Watching how quickly Megan found like-minded friends and just played and played. I didn't see much of her for the time we were there, but each time I saw her, she was beaming!<br />
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The water park. <br />
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The sessions that reinforced the reasons we have kept our kids out of school until they are ready to choose that path for themselves (or not). I love the freedom we have as a family and I love that my kids are in charge of their own futures.<br />
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The entertainment--nerf wars, pirates, sword swallowing...you name it, they had it. The kids LOVED it. (Oh, and a TV in the bedroom that had the Red Sox on every night...you can guess who loved that part!)<br />
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All in all, a wonderful conference that left us with lots to think about. I can't wait for next year!<br />
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(I know there aren't any pictures of Megan up here, but like I said, I hardly saw her! She was off with her friends the whole time!)</div>
Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-9449216611620578352013-04-09T17:46:00.003-07:002013-04-09T17:46:46.520-07:00100 Days100 Days*!! Today, in the pouring rain with my daughter riding her bike beside me, I completed a challenge I set for myself at the beginning of the year. For the past 100 days I have run/walked (mostly run!) a minimum of one mile EVERY SINGLE DAY. I haven't missed one. Why? Because I have crazy friends (I won't mention you here, Lauri and Jen, don't worry, your secret is safe with me!) and I figured if they could do it, I could do it. So I did. Yes, the past 100 days have included sickness (me and my kids), travel (running in the White Mountains of NH is all uphill...all of it. Even the downhill parts), single parenting, crazy schedules, early mornings and late nights. And it was all totally worth it. <br />
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Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-7075766802684272142013-03-01T06:41:00.001-08:002013-03-01T06:41:27.091-08:0010 years!A decade. That is how long I have been a parent. Can you believe it?? Me neither. I cannot believe what changes have happened in my life in the past 10 years. When I was pregnant with Erin, I was planning to breastfeed her for 6-10 weeks (yes, that was weeks), go back to work and never look back. You know, modern woman and all that. HA!! What things we learn and journeys we take when we open our hearts to the amazing love of a child and the world of being a Mom! And now look at us--look at my family and my path and look at the wonderful things my journey has taught me. I can never describe what it is like to be the mom to this kid--this amazing, gifted, moody, sarcastic, joyful, true-to-herself, Lego-obsessed, boy-clothes-wearing, tree-climbing, happy, loving, kind, fabulous kid. Happy Birthday, Erin, I can't wait to see what the next 10 years will bring!!
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Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-1871138277271071012013-02-21T17:49:00.001-08:002013-02-28T13:39:14.451-08:002 YearsEvan's birthday marked another anniversary for our family, one that is not so joyous. It has been two years since Amy's passing. Two years of not hearing her voice, not seeing her smile, or watching her play with my kids. There have been so many times in the past two years that I would stand in my kitchen, phone in hand, just wanting to call her about my day. Of course I could easily punch out her phone number and I can hear her answering machine clearly. I've reached out a few times to other friends from college, just to maintain some type of connection to that part of my life and, by extension, to Amy. It isn't the same, but it will do. (Don't get me wrong, I'm thrilled to have reconnected with some of my old college friends! Truly grateful!) I'm not sure what else to write about this, other than I did not want this anniversary to pass unnoticed. Amy, I miss you tremendously. It really is that simple.Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-45006010486642912732013-02-13T18:14:00.002-08:002013-02-13T18:16:42.800-08:00Four Years Old!!!It is virtually impossible for me to describe what it felt like, 4 years ago, to wrap my arms around a living, breathing, perfect little boy. The child who would never have been, the baby we never dared believe would make it into this world, the miracle we needed more than anything...this was all wrapped up in an 8lb, 1oz warm, squirming bundle and placed on my chest that cold, snowy night 4 years ago.<br />
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Aimeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10289999392739724304noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6966197358676864279.post-83453900110467557232013-02-10T17:51:00.002-08:002013-02-10T17:51:43.607-08:00Party PicturesBaby's first cake...though as we were talking about it, we realized that, being the fourth child, we have no idea if this is actually her <i>first</i> cake. Probably not!
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Tasting... </div>
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Oh wait...this stuff is GOOD! </div>
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More, please!! </div>
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Birthday presents wrapped in newspaper. Love it!! </div>
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What is it?? </div>
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Hum... </div>
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Ahhhh...a new laundry basket!! </div>
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Maybe I should explain this--you see, Jordan LOVES rides in the laundry basket. The girls will throw a pillow in the bottom of one and carry her around while she giggles and claps her hands. Unfortunately, all my laundry baskets are broken, resulting in sharp edges on many of them. Erin is pretty careful about putting pillows in just the right places, but for J's birthday, she decided that Jordan could really use some new baskets. So we did! (See, with a little explanation, a new laundry basket seems like the perfect gift for a 1-year-old, doesn't it??)</div>
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